Relationship Red Flags: wants to get serious quickly, will not take NO for an answer, is overly jealous and possessive, wants to choose their partners friends and activities, is controlling and bossy (makes all the decisions), puts partner down when alone and in front of others, makes partner feel guilty ("If you really loved me you would..."), blames the victim for behavior ("It's your fault I get so angry"), apologies for violent behavior ("I'll never do it again, I promise."), has strong ideas about gender roles